“Refill yourself before you pour into others! ”
Breaking it Down
Often times we want to connect to others with an empathic approach. Meaning you desire to understand others, be fully invested in their interests and even share their feelings. It is not a crime to be empathetic, but it is a disservice to onesself when the investment comes back void or draining. You may want to take a pause and yourself, " Why do I feel drained today? Why do I feel like I pour into others but still feel empty?" Empathy involves recognizing the feeling's of others, "feeling" them yourself, and communicating your understanding to that person. In what may seem like being a good friend, may be the beginning to empathic fatigue--the weariness you feel from feeling the pain of others' life situations over a long period of time.
I am here to tell you, you can't carry it all, you must set boundaries, and you must implement self-care to balance being the source of peace. Have you ever heard the saying, " You can't give from an empty cup?" Well, it remains true. Tell yourself, "(insert your name), you can't give from an empty cup. Girl you have to take care of you in order to pour into others. You can't fix anyone and you sure can't bring peace if you have chaos within.
To fill your cup is an expression which means to replenish those stores of mental, emotional, and physical energy. It means that you need to stop and recharge your batteries.
Any device which has run of battery cannot run properly. Similarly if you are depleted, that is if you feel emotionally, mentally or physically drained then you won’t be able to help others. This means your cup is empty and you need to fill it up with self care and self love.
Now that you have acknowledged that you need to step back for self-care, how do you feel? Does your cup seem refilled? I hope this post is a reminder to replenish you before you pour into others!
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